Just like what I've said to the first part of my blog being a daddy is a big adjustments .
Now i'll show you all the things you need to prepare for being a daddy. 1. You need to tell to yourself that you're not a teenager anymore. It means that you need to limit or stop all the bad habits like SMOKING , DRINKING ALCOHOL & GOING OUT WITH YOUR FRIEND'S. Why smoking? It not good for the health of the baby to inhale the smoke of the cigarette through you and to your health . But if it is your habit to smoke like me what I do is I smoke outside and use alcohol after I smoke and I wait for 10 to 15 mins before going back inside to eliminate the smell of the cigarette . If you can stop smoking it is more convenient because you can look after your baby time to time and you can save money. Why drinking alcohol? Totally you can drink whenever you want but you need estimate yourself in other word DON'T DRINK TO MUCH . Especially when you have a new born baby and mommy's need some support from you. After mommy's giving birth to your baby she will feel exhausted and emotionally drained at the same time and it will take at least 1 to 2 week for her to recover It means you need to provide full support to your family . Why going out with your friends? Why going out with your friends? There is a perfect time for you to have bond with your friends but still you need to remember the word "Daddy's Duty" you are a father now so you need to prioritize your family . Don't worry FREE TIME & DATE NIGHT with your loving wife are still available so you can still scheduled yourself. 2. Be responsible You need to be more responsible . Being a daddy you should get a regular work for you to provide all the daily needs of your family. The important thing is that you should never ever tell to your wife that you're very tired. Because taking care of a child is also difficult so do not compare your work to her work.. My duty is when I got home my main job is I washed our baby feeding bottles sometimes i'll fix our bed or clean our room. In my day off me and my wife will do the laundry. I do not believe in the word that the mother should the only one who do all of the household works. 3. Be a good teacher You and your wife will be the first teacher of child . You need to teach them all the right things to do especially having a good moral who knows how to respect and to love the people around them . The most important word is "FAMILY DAY " this is day that you and your family will have a quality time. You should share what had happened in your week.
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What does it feel like when you become a father? I felt anxious and stress when I knew that I will have a baby for the first time. because I'm just 18 years old back then, so I don't know what to do. The reason why is honestly, I don't know how to take care my wife when she was pregnant and what more in taking care of a newborn baby at the same time. and I love my wife so much. At that time I thought, I'm still young to be a daddy and I didn't finish my course (I'm a college student at that time) . I didn't know how can I manage myself to do the things that I want, because I knew that having a baby is a big adjustment for me like I can't do what I used to do. For example going out with your friends to drink and to have some fun, going on the computer shop to play online games until morning and to travel around the Philippines. What I mean is that all the things that I do when I was a teenager I can't do most of It because you need to give all of your time to take care your precious baby and your loving wife. After all the bad things that I knew would happen to me I've never thought to abort my baby. for me that would be the stupid things that the other upcoming daddy would think, because "when you choose to make love with her, you already chose to be a daddy." That means you need to face all the consequences that would happen after the happiness you did with her. And I also realized that our God had already made plans for us and the baby that was given to me is a gift that would make my world colorful and inspire me to pursue a better life with my wife and also with my baby. Instead of celebrating my birthday, I just decided to find a job to sustain my wife's necessities and to prepare all the needs of my baby to make sure that she's healthy. The next day, I applied as a cook in a fast food in our town but the funny thing is, I'm hired as a waiter. On my first day, I experienced all the difficulties of being a waiter and maybe because it's my first time. I had no knowledge about it. But in that restaurant I'm not just a waiter I'm also a steward, janitor and a kitchen helper. It means I'm capable. I only have 7 months left to prepare. Whenever I feel tired I always tell myself that I must be strong for my daughter and for my wife because I don't want them to experience the hard times that I encounter in life. I also want to give them a bright future" After 3 months, I saw an advertisement in a famous hotel in our city and they are looking for a kitchen helper so I grabbed the opportunity because it's my dream to be a chef. And thank God they had accepted my application. After a week, I started to work as a kitchen helper. I thought my next job would be more fair but I was wrong. In a hotel industry you need to be really patient because when I worked there I received all of the discrimination and all the bad words that can hurt me deeply. And because of that, if I will be given the chance to be a manager or a leader, I wouldn't do those things to other people. On the 3rd day of February in 2017, this is the day that my baby was born. I've already earned enough money for the delivery and also had an extra money for the other necessities. At 7 pm, me and my mother-in-law assisted my wife to go to the birthing home. At 11 pm, my wife was ready to gave birth and at 4:36 am that's the time that the midwife passed my baby to me and I saw my wife unconscious n bed. On that day, I felt anxious and stress again but with excitement and happiness because after that difficult times finally I can see my baby. I'm way too excited. While I'm holding my baby girl suddenly I feel my time stopped . saying to myself " I made I right choice " and my tears won't stop thanking god that he give me a wonderful baby and healthy baby a beautiful baby girl and after all the decisions , stress and difficulty I was a great outcome . February 04 2017 Is the day that I can't forget that this Is the start for my to be a GREAT DADDY M. So what next? Thank you for reading . This was just a beginning follow me In the next story of my life . I hope you learn something from It . “I know now why God gave us babies. They require constant attention, of course. They make messes and disturb the peace, but their cuteness and smiles are something the only reminder of God we have In the house.” Ann Rinaidi |